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Betwixt these pages lies the latest great innovation in the field of psychotherapy, all doctored by the pen of the revolutionary clinical psychologist, �L. Russell Hoover. Loaded with the newest discoveries from his research and studies, it is both a how-to book and a critique of the system. Combining unerring logic with humorous analogue it provides a no holds barred peak at what�s hot and what�s wrought at your mental health stores.

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Betwixt these pages lies the latest great innovation in the field of psychotherapy, all doctored by the pen of the revolutionary clinical psychologist, �L. Russell Hoover. Loaded with the newest discoveries from his research and studies, it is both a how-to book and a critique of the system. Combining unerring logic with humorous analogue it provides a no holds barred peak at what�s hot and what�s wrought at your mental health stores.

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Betwixt these pages lies the latest great innovation in the field of psychotherapy, all doctored by the pen of the revolutionary clinical psychologist, �L. Russell Hoover. Loaded with the newest discoveries from his research and studies, it is both a how-to book and a critique of the system. Combining unerring logic with humorous analogue it provides a no holds barred peak at what�s hot and what�s wrought at your mental health stores.

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Here is a formula for living which simplifies the challenging human condition. While simple, this formula has depth and texture which inspires and enlarges us.

This book serves as a bridge between two different ways of thinking about ourselves and others. It simply synthesizes something the author calls "the Energy Paradigm" WITH the standard, conventionally held world view of "medical model" psychology and psychiatry. Larry Dossey, M.D., author of HEALING BEYOND THE BODY, HEALING WORDS, and REINVENTING MEDICINE said of this Nancy Ging and her first book: "SIMPLIFYING THE ROAD TO WHOLENESS" is full of insights into integrating body, mind, and spirit, and an entry into the medicine of the future. Nancy Ging is a compassionate, skillful, and trustworthy guide." The author shares original theoretical material that can help the reader look with new eyes at the daunting dilemma of living as a human being. Life can be simplified as we recognize that we live in two Realities (one is spacious, the other more dense) and the two Realities have different "laws," there are two kinds of physics (Newtonian and Quantum Physics) and we have two brain-hemispheres (Yin and Yang) which interpret the two Realities for us.

Reality is changing, and so must self-help books and the helping-professions. Without drowning the baby in the bath water, this book allows the reader to hear and hold helpful ways conventionally trained clinicians have thought about their clients AND, within the other hand, hold another Reality. The other Reality is the world view of the many holistically inclined practitioners. It is the paradigm of the millions of people addressing their spirituality and opening to ponder the mysterious realm. Both hands, both realities, are worthy of respect and each reality reflects aspects of the whole of life.

Have you noticed the word "energy" creeping into the collective vocabulary of our culture as we´ve entered the New Millennium? The perspective that everything is energy-in-motion and that everything is interconnected has long been the perspective of mystics and people of the Earth-honoring cultures of earlier civilizations. In recent years, the world view of those mystical and spiritual healers has also been embraced by a growing number of holistic healers -- energy workers/body-workers and a new breed of energy-sensitive psychotherapists -- and by a great many people who are awakening to another dimension of who they really are. The era of energy speake is upon us and a shift in consciousness is occurring. This isn´t a time to throw out the model from which we´ve been operating while embracing the new paradigm. It is a time to dance back and forth on a bridge which marries together two complementary opposites realities. A new era is dawning and this visionary author has written about ways we can expand into wholesome self-love thereby doing our part to brighten the collective consciousness of humanity. At the very least, this book can help an individual to know their own wholeness and experience it on a regular basis.

The partnership of the old paradigm of science which we have been taught in school AND the emerging new paradigm or "energy paradigm" gives the reader a new synthesis out of which to find balance. Life is a balancing act! Within the fulcrum point where divergent realities meet, balance and wholeness is found. The human heart is this fulcrum point, the wellspring and fountain where a Unified Self can be found.

The author shows and tells. She shares some of her own life´s challenges and celebrations, tragedies and triumphs, and she teaches us that miracles of growth and healing happen at the place where the spaciousness of Spirit begins to encounter the more concrete, material reality of form and structure.

This is a book for helping oneself find the wholeness which already exists for each of us in the reality of Oneness. The author begins, "Let us simplify." This book puts FIRST THINGS FIRST. The author offers an apology for the enormous complexity the field of psychology and related fields have created, confounding professionals and self-help book readers with information and techniques which are meant to be helpful but which often obfuscate. In other words, our real beauty as human beings reflecting the clear, bright, sunny sky has gotten buried under clouds of theoretical material and techniques which may distract us from our most essential identity, our Greater Self or Soul. The essence of who we really are, an already whole soul connected to vast resources of energy for living abundantly, has been occluded with all sorts of information about what might be WRONG with us! Albeit interesting and often valid, the vast body of knowledge taught to those in the helping professions has often caused people to forget that wholeness is "a pre-existing condition." Sometimes, oftentimes, to feel better we simply need to shift our stance, move into a different perspective for looking at who we are. Shift happens. Relief from inner conflict and confusion can be found, sometimes swiftly, as we gently shift our viewpoints about ourselves. Life can become a little easier as we realize that we can simply shift back and forth between paradigms. The formula presented is a bit like channel surfing between a few very well-programed television channels, channels 1,2, 3 and 4.

Both a self-help book and a manual for all those in the helping professions who find their consciousness expanding into a more holistic perspective, this book will, hopefully, land in the mind-body-spirit section of bookstores and serve those seeking a sensible and spirited balance in their lives. It is a book about integration and the personal integrity that comes with getting to know ourselves in a number of different ways, looking at ourselves with new eyes, and from some different angles. It is a book written for more than one audience of readers, just as it is a book that is continually bridging two different realities. In the culture of greater consciousness which is emerging, we can all know --- or find out --- everything on the Internet. There is no longer any body of information known only to privileged professionals. And this is as it should be. The formula for living and perspectives presented are easy enough for any reader to grasp and use, yet for those who enjoy more ideas more intricate, in the middle section this manual becomes an advanced self-help book with a bounty of helpful ideas and also original theoretical material which may be particularly helpful for counselors, psychotherapists, life coaches, nurses, healers, psychics, body workers, clergy and for those highly conventional psychologists and psychiatrists who are wanting their consciousness to expand or who are finding that their clients/patients are getting ahead of them in understanding the Life Process in the 21st Century.

SECTION ONE:

This section is a quick and easy overview of the formula for living which is as easy to remember as 1,2,3, and 4. This is because the formula is simply called 1-2-3-and 4. Four different vantage points simplify the road to wholeness. Diagrams are included for getting the messages with a glance.

Chapter 1: THE ESSENTIALS

... is about keeping our very essence close to our awareness. Remembering that we are Spirit is the place to start --- and the stance from which to evolve.

Chapter 2: ONENESS

Our primary identity is our wholeness and oneness which we actually can learn to feel. We can think of our Soul as our great container which holds the whole of who we are and all that we have experienced. Just as the song says, "He´s Got The Whole World in His Hands," our Soul is that which holds in balance the sum total of our own mental, emotional, physical selves. This is our Greater Self

Chapter 3: DOUBLE VISION FOR A UNIFIED SELF

Keeping it simple, we each have two brain hemispheres. We each embody feminine and masculine ways of knowing. Yin and Yang. There is night and day. There is up and down. Heaven and Earth. Polarities. Dichotomies. Double ways. AND we live in two Realities. There are two models of physics, Particle Physics and Quantum Physics, one model to describe each Reality and show us the rules for each Reality. One brain hemisphere to interpret each Reality.

Chapter 4: MANY TWO´S: PERSONALITY PARTNERS

We enlarge ourselves as we get to know our personality level self. This "lesser self" (lesser only than our Greater Self) of our human nature is made up of many patterns of energy existing in pairs, polarities of energy. These opposite sides of each coin are destined to become partners, complementary opposites energy patterns which balance each other.

Chapter 5: FULL-BODIED WHOLENESS

The process of embodying our Soul happens when we bring our consciousness, like laser light, into the energy blockages, emotions, aches and pains showing up in our body. These blocks introduce us to portions of our human nature which we may not have met yet. Many mystics and New Age seekers have been dissociated from their bodies. It´s time to move in to our own private, personal, portable plot of Mother Earth, our body.

Chapter 6: WE ARE A TRINITY

This chapter begins with the overview of our threeness:

Two hemispheres and one heart
Meet to make a trinity for living;
Two perspectives of reality from mind
May find their greatest advocate in giving
Sovereignty to a heart awakened.
Once this heart-brain triangle we know
Lives will link with Grace, toward calling´s flow.
As we activate and honor this grand thine
Lives become more humane, more Divine.
Much is included in this chapter which speaks of "tweaking" our brains into better functioning with the help of brain scans and even medication. And the physical heart, meant to be the brain´s sovereign partner, is looked at in the light of actual heart monitors, and new research from HeartMath Institute.

The story of a client´s miraculous self-healing with guided imagery, energy medicine and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is included, with imagery suggestions for healing help.

Readers are invited to open their hearts:

The hatching of the heart ---
So ripe, this phrase is haunting me.
How good, indeed it would be for the world
If each of us would HATCH our HEARTS this year,
Allowing hardened shells surrounding these
To slowly crack and fall away,
Releasing Light and Love with wings
So all within the orbit of our field
Could feel the flow
And somehow know
That peace of every kind
Comes from the heart, not mind.
There is a circle here:
The mind informs the heart,
The heart illumes the mind
Which then, again, informs the heart ---
And so it goes; with Grace the process flows.
Celebrate anew, each day, your best of parts:
Your tender and courageous heart
And start to HATCH that HEART today;
Tomorrow, someday, set it free
Then feel your Essence, fully BE.

Chapter 7: A HARMONIOUS QUARTET --- THE HEART

Four compartments has the heart
Housing all its qualities;
Two Yin, Two Yang chambers apart
Meet soul at their interstices.

There is a place in the physical heart where the four chambers meet , the very core of our heart. The four chambers, like all of nature, must be Yin (rhymes with feminine) and Yang (masculine). In this chapter the many qualities of the heart are lifted up with Courage and Joy being examples of strength and Spirit, stout-hearted Yang energy, strength and Spirit. Two Yin chambers honored are Trust and Compassion, reflecting the feminine accepting, receptive aspect of nature. Yin and Yang aspects of our heart meet in a partnership to form Gratitude, and Harmony, among other yinyang heart qualities.

Categorizing heart qualities into Yin and/or Yang is not the point of this chapter. What is important is to focus attention on the heart, thereby expanding its field of influence within ourselves and with others.

Our heart´s the greatest treasure trove
The bodymind may hold
Compassion is it´s healing balm
For others to enfold.
And we as well receive this love
As often as we give it.
Benevolence is who we ARE;
Remember, then, to live it.
And NOW´s the time, the only place
From whence the heart can flow;
Eternity´s the here and now ---
The heartspace whole, a´glow.
Let´s honor now the organ ---
Four chambered, splendid thing,
The meeting place of Mother Earth
With Heaven´s beckoning.
So clear away the discontent
And set your ticker free!
Celebrate your choice to love,
Expand humanity.
We needn´t overpopulate;
The planet needs our care!
Let´s flow our healing energy

From hearts to everywhere.

SECTION TWO

This is a more detailed and intricate description of the four perspectives. It is more of an "advanced self-help book" and an aid for counselors, healers, coaches and professionals wanting to be responsible and responsive to both of the two Realities presented in Section One.

This section includes exercises readers can use for their own growth, integration and healing. It also includes stories of the author´s work with her clients, and techniques which human-service professionals may want to include in their repertoire to make their work more holistic.

Academics may find these chapters helpful for bringing paradigms together, considering the theory of a Unified Self and for teaching the "how to´s" of holistic psychotherapy. Two of the chapters, Paradigm Mix-up´s and Family Energy Systems are mind expanding experiences. And Section Two it includes more poetry which may help with the integration of these new concepts by moving the reader from the linear, evaluative thinking mode of their "left-brain" realm into the flow of "right-brain" experience.

Chapter 8: SISTER/BROTHER CAN YOU PARADIGM?

Psychics and physicists are compared, as are two complementary cosmologies. The models of Reality from two different worlds, and the different ways of East and West are presented as is a proposal for marriage of the two opposite paradigms.

Chapter 9: TWO REALITIES IN CONTRAST

This chapter compares what the author calls Reality # 1 and Reality #2 describing human nature and spiritual experience. The spacious quality of the Energy Paradigm make individuals and couples in counseling feel more hopeful for with this viewpoint, difficult patterns are not "carved in stone" because everything is "energy-in-motion."

A chart is included in this chapter which compares and contrasts The Energy Paradigm with the Paradigm of conventional Science in nearly thirty ways. For example: In Reality #1 mystery is honored. In Reality #2 we seek mastery of the world. Chapter 10: YIN AND YANG REVISITED

Traditional ways of understanding the feminine principle and the masculine principle are described in this chapter and, following these familiar ways of thinking about Yin and Yang are some of the author´s additional ways of conceptualizing these two different modes which are destined to be partners:

Yin (Feminine):
Yang (Masculine):

Receptive/receptacle
Penetrating/instrument

Yielding
Controlling

Allowing things to happen
Making things happen

Gentle
Forceful

Soft, flexible
Hard, firm
Dark, wet, cold
Light, dry, heat

Weak, vulnerable
Strong Passive, resting
Active, striving

Cooperative Competitive Moon Sun Earth, Physical Body Heaven, Spirit Inward, downward Outward, upward Imaginative Logical Diffuse Focused Circular Linear Abstract, vague Concrete, specific THE FEMININE PRINCIPLE THE MASCULINE PRINCIPLE Dominant mode of "primitive" cultures Main mode of "advanced" Western civilization Life as mystery: (Gabriel Marcel) Life seen as problems and participation in the mystery and solving of problems Attitude of "Let it be," Attitude of "Just do it !" God as preposition ("The Great WITH") God as noun, more concrete That which connects; or as verb, a process, particular figure or The Creator God as PRESENCE throughout Her-story God as acting in history God as "Spirit" "The" Spirit or "A" Spirit A separate thing Soul cannot be contained; it is boundless Soul as container, that which holds energy merging with the Divine our experience "Human Beings" "Human Doings" Being present Taking action Our IS-ness nature Our business nature; busyness Reflects by looking forward Reflects by looking backward With dreams, fantasies, patterns Using data, opinions Sees and Accepts the whole Analytical, evaluative, judging Without placement hierarchial Awareness and Consciousness Experience Experience from Greater Self From 5 senses, action , emotion And "whole body" sense thought. specific body feeling Trust based behavior Survival based behavior Process Content Chapter 11: METAPHORS FOR TWO REALITIES Metaphors and guided imagery exercises are presented for enhancing the physically felt sense of wholeness and embodying our Soul energy. Chapter 12: BEING PRESENT TO OURSELVES You must be present to win! Teaching presence is, to a large extent, what counseling clients toward greater consciousness is about. This chapter looks at the polarity of Awareness and Experience, encouraging awareness of our human experience as a way to have the polar opposites, Reality # 1 and Reality # 2, meet in the middle (Reality #3) where magic can happen. Helping professionals can bring more "presence" to their work and we can all learn to be WITH ourselves more intimately as we consider God as "the great preposition," the Great "With," the Grand Connector. Chapter 13: THE TEXTURE OF EACH REALITY Reality #1 and Reality #2 do not feel the same to our physical body. The felt energies, the qualities of these Reality polarities, one spacious, the other dense, are described and contrasted. An experiential exercise is included. Ultimately, all energy of each reality is Divine aliveness and so, the philosophies of Pantheism and Panentheism are also described and contrasted, too. Chapter 14: PARADIGM ENTANGLEMENT The rules of each paradigm are different. People get into trouble or look foolish when they apply one Reality´s set of perceptions and rules to the other Reality! What psychiatry deems a "thought disorders" may be an example of a paradigm mix-up. Metaphysical concepts are presented in this chapter. The polarity of limitlessness in the boundary-less realm of Heavenly resources is contrasted with the need to have limits in the physical-material reality. Much confusion can get cleared up as we look at mixed paradigms. Chapter 15: SEPARATENESS AND ONENESS Developmental psychology teaches of the linear-sequential process of "separation- individuation." While "all is one" in the reality of Spirit where "we are all in this together," in the physical-material reality "we are all in this alone." Healthy psychological self-hood requires that we move through this process and become "differentiated" from those with whom we are originally merged. This chapter tells the story of separation and the possible and probable pitfalls in the process. Chapter 16: POLARITIES Polarities and paradoxes are looked at through a wide angled lens which takes in Freud, Jung, Daniel Levinson, Heinz Kohut, the author´s list of "primitive polarities" of the narcissistically vulnerable and suggestions for balancing these energies. Noah´s Ark is revisited. It may be the time for awakening to the very real possibility that the lion can and will lie down with the lamb. The paradox of "creating your own reality" and surrendering is examined. Chapter 17: FAMILY ENERGY SYSTEMS Family System Theory meets Energy Medicine in this chapter where metaphysical laws add insight to the beliefs that "opposites attract" and "like attracts like" (The Law of Attraction). Change in one family member changes each family member, even those members who are far away. Chapter 18: THERAPISTS, HEALERS, COACHES How are these roles different ? Can one person wear all hats? A chart compares and contrasts the perspectives and practices of therapists and healers. Therapy modalities fall on a continuum from the more concrete problem-solving, cognitive and developmental modes to the more creative modes such as art therapy and therapies that work more directly with the energy of the deeper domain, the Soul´s realm. Chapter 19: SEX AND THE UNIFIED SELF A continuum of sexual connection, degrees of intimacy and the relationship with Self/selfhood is presented here. Commonly held ideas in conventional psychology about aspects of sexual dysfunction are addressed. The essence of the chapter is found in its poem: Robust Those lusty ways So primal While we have these bodies Let us get from them The mileage that we may Connecting to divine aliveness Merging with the Great Beyond Communing with The One Through union with another Lover Hearts of gold Arms enfolding Spirits flowing No withholding Share this Earth Give birth to making Fertile now At any age And any stage of life A time for pleasure-making No mistake in waking To a time to savor Bodies which have brought us through and on beyond Our suffering to now enjoy the bonds Of blissful union, More communion. Chapter 20: HONORING HEAVEN AND EARTH

Ancient Earth-based traditions are discussed along with some clinically useful thoughts on Hinduism, the Buddha´s formative years, an experience of Moses, and the Yin and Yang of Jesus´ teachings. And for what do we seek wholeness? A Unified Self brings us to the place where the answers are found.

Chapter 21: THE "SHADOW" OF THE NEW AGE MOVEMENT

Immaturities among New Agers are highlighted.

Chapter 22: HELP FOR HIGHLY SPIRITUAL, PRIMARY PROCESS PEOPLE

Who are the psychologically vulnerable in the era of holistic practices and alternative therapy? What are the cognitive styles, relationship proclivities and personality peculiarities of psychics and highly energy sensitive people? 24 things that sensitive people and their therapist, healers and coaches need to consider.

Chapter 23: PAVING THE ROAD TO WHOLENESS

Concluding Section II is a distinction between various levels of energy work, some thoughts about alternative therapy and finally, 36 of the book´s better concepts.

SECTION THREE:

The third section is the author´s experience as a therapist-on-the-mend, the tale of her extensive, expensive, often off-beat and long process of healing from thyroid cancer, rheumatoid arthritis and serious MS symptoms, all of which have been completely eliminated since the mid 1980´s. The author shares her own road through depression and a sometimes somewhat fragmented personality to the blessed time of welcoming her wholeness and Unified Selfhood --- Greater Self and personality level ("lesser self") in tandem. She shares the wealth of her educational excursions into two different cultures, for she has explored far and wide within the conventional paradigm of psychology and psychiatry, studied the new sciences, theology, comparative religions, various forms of meditation and energy healing practices and ventured far outside the establishment where she made contact with medicine men and women, shamanic healers, psychics and many unusual characters.

CHAPTER 24: PLACES ALONG THE ROAD

The benefit of the author´s experience of synthesizing many ways and means of approaching life and of living through family tragedies is shared with the intention to inspire (put Spirit-into) readers with what she has learned bringing hope to those who take a look at this book and turn its pages.

APPENDIX A: Author´s diagrammatic description of Heinz Kohut´s theory of narcissism

APPENDIX B: Ten Strategies for Holistic Counseling

APPENDIX C: A list of 40 presentations where the author has shared her material in academic institutions and professional and ecclesiastical organizations during the past 15 years.

APPENDIX D: The author´s personal log of many hundreds of lectures, workshops, healings and "readings" experienced throughout the 1970´s, 1980´s, and half way through the 1990´s.

Notes: 90 + citations

Bibliography:

250 "Books for Paradigm-Bridging, Balancing Realities and Holistic Education" grouped into 55 categories which have been synthesized in the author´s work, such as: The New Sciences, Consciousness, Energy Healing, Vibrational/Energy Medicine, New Heart and Brain Material, "Parts" Psychology, Dream work, Jungian Psychology, Synchronicity, Family Systems, Narcissism and Self Psychology, Object Relations and Spirituality, Transformational Psychology, Mysticism and Psychotherapy, The Shadow, Shamanic Counseling, Spiritual Emergency and Depossession Therapy, States of Spiritual Development, Popular Reading in Spirituality, Guru Studies, Meditation, Prayer, Comparative Religions, Oracles, Channeled Books, Sacred Geometry, Alternative Medicine.

Here is a formula for living which simplifies the challenging human condition. While simple, this formula has depth and texture which inspires and enlarges us.

This book serves as a bridge between two different ways of thinking about ourselves and others. It simply synthesizes something the author calls "the Energy Paradigm" WITH the standard, conventionally held world view of "medical model" psychology and psychiatry. Larry Dossey, M.D., author of HEALING BEYOND THE BODY, HEALING WORDS, and REINVENTING MEDICINE said of this Nancy Ging and her first book: "SIMPLIFYING THE ROAD TO WHOLENESS" is full of insights into integrating body, mind, and spirit, and an entry into the medicine of the future. Nancy Ging is a compassionate, skillful, and trustworthy guide." The author shares original theoretical material that can help the reader look with new eyes at the daunting dilemma of living as a human being. Life can be simplified as we recognize that we live in two Realities (one is spacious, the other more dense) and the two Realities have different "laws," there are two kinds of physics (Newtonian and Quantum Physics) and we have two brain-hemispheres (Yin and Yang) which interpret the two Realities for us.

Reality is changing, and so must self-help books and the helping-professions. Without drowning the baby in the bath water, this book allows the reader to hear and hold helpful ways conventionally trained clinicians have thought about their clients AND, within the other hand, hold another Reality. The other Reality is the world view of the many holistically inclined practitioners. It is the paradigm of the millions of people addressing their spirituality and opening to ponder the mysterious realm. Both hands, both realities, are worthy of respect and each reality reflects aspects of the whole of life.

Have you noticed the word "energy" creeping into the collective vocabulary of our culture as we´ve entered the New Millennium? The perspective that everything is energy-in-motion and that everything is interconnected has long been the perspective of mystics and people of the Earth-honoring cultures of earlier civilizations. In recent years, the world view of those mystical and spiritual healers has also been embraced by a growing number of holistic healers -- energy workers/body-workers and a new breed of energy-sensitive psychotherapists -- and by a great many people who are awakening to another dimension of who they really are. The era of energy speake is upon us and a shift in consciousness is occurring. This isn´t a time to throw out the model from which we´ve been operating while embracing the new paradigm. It is a time to dance back and forth on a bridge which marries together two complementary opposites realities. A new era is dawning and this visionary author has written about ways we can expand into wholesome self-love thereby doing our part to brighten the collective consciousness of humanity. At the very least, this book can help an individual to know their own wholeness and experience it on a regular basis.

The partnership of the old paradigm of science which we have been taught in school AND the emerging new paradigm or "energy paradigm" gives the reader a new synthesis out of which to find balance. Life is a balancing act! Within the fulcrum point where divergent realities meet, balance and wholeness is found. The human heart is this fulcrum point, the wellspring and fountain where a Unified Self can be found.

The author shows and tells. She shares some of her own life´s challenges and celebrations, tragedies and triumphs, and she teaches us that miracles of growth and healing happen at the place where the spaciousness of Spirit begins to encounter the more concrete, material reality of form and structure.

This is a book for helping oneself find the wholeness which already exists for each of us in the reality of Oneness. The author begins, "Let us simplify." This book puts FIRST THINGS FIRST. The author offers an apology for the enormous complexity the field of psychology and related fields have created, confounding professionals and self-help book readers with information and techniques which are meant to be helpful but which often obfuscate. In other words, our real beauty as human beings reflecting the clear, bright, sunny sky has gotten buried under clouds of theoretical material and techniques which may distract us from our most essential identity, our Greater Self or Soul. The essence of who we really are, an already whole soul connected to vast resources of energy for living abundantly, has been occluded with all sorts of information about what might be WRONG with us! Albeit interesting and often valid, the vast body of knowledge taught to those in the helping professions has often caused people to forget that wholeness is "a pre-existing condition." Sometimes, oftentimes, to feel better we simply need to shift our stance, move into a different perspective for looking at who we are. Shift happens. Relief from inner conflict and confusion can be found, sometimes swiftly, as we gently shift our viewpoints about ourselves. Life can become a little easier as we realize that we can simply shift back and forth between paradigms. The formula presented is a bit like channel surfing between a few very well-programed television channels, channels 1,2, 3 and 4.

Both a self-help book and a manual for all those in the helping professions who find their consciousness expanding into a more holistic perspective, this book will, hopefully, land in the mind-body-spirit section of bookstores and serve those seeking a sensible and spirited balance in their lives. It is a book about integration and the personal integrity that comes with getting to know ourselves in a number of different ways, looking at ourselves with new eyes, and from some different angles. It is a book written for more than one audience of readers, just as it is a book that is continually bridging two different realities. In the culture of greater consciousness which is emerging, we can all know --- or find out --- everything on the Internet. There is no longer any body of information known only to privileged professionals. And this is as it should be. The formula for living and perspectives presented are easy enough for any reader to grasp and use, yet for those who enjoy more ideas more intricate, in the middle section this manual becomes an advanced self-help book with a bounty of helpful ideas and also original theoretical material which may be particularly helpful for counselors, psychotherapists, life coaches, nurses, healers, psychics, body workers, clergy and for those highly conventional psychologists and psychiatrists who are wanting their consciousness to expand or who are finding that their clients/patients are getting ahead of them in understanding the Life Process in the 21st Century.

SECTION ONE:

This section is a quick and easy overview of the formula for living which is as easy to remember as 1,2,3, and 4. This is because the formula is simply called 1-2-3-and 4. Four different vantage points simplify the road to wholeness. Diagrams are included for getting the messages with a glance.

Chapter 1: THE ESSENTIALS

... is about keeping our very essence close to our awareness. Remembering that we are Spirit is the place to start --- and the stance from which to evolve.

Chapter 2: ONENESS

Our primary identity is our wholeness and oneness which we actually can learn to feel. We can think of our Soul as our great container which holds the whole of who we are and all that we have experienced. Just as the song says, "He´s Got The Whole World in His Hands," our Soul is that which holds in balance the sum total of our own mental, emotional, physical selves. This is our Greater Self

Chapter 3: DOUBLE VISION FOR A UNIFIED SELF

Keeping it simple, we each have two brain hemispheres. We each embody feminine and masculine ways of knowing. Yin and Yang. There is night and day. There is up and down. Heaven and Earth. Polarities. Dichotomies. Double ways. AND we live in two Realities. There are two models of physics, Particle Physics and Quantum Physics, one model to describe each Reality and show us the rules for each Reality. One brain hemisphere to interpret each Reality.

Chapter 4: MANY TWO´S: PERSONALITY PARTNERS

We enlarge ourselves as we get to know our personality level self. This "lesser self" (lesser only than our Greater Self) of our human nature is made up of many patterns of energy existing in pairs, polarities of energy. These opposite sides of each coin are destined to become partners, complementary opposites energy patterns which balance each other.

Chapter 5: FULL-BODIED WHOLENESS

The process of embodying our Soul happens when we bring our consciousness, like laser light, into the energy blockages, emotions, aches and pains showing up in our body. These blocks introduce us to portions of our human nature which we may not have met yet. Many mystics and New Age seekers have been dissociated from their bodies. It´s time to move in to our own private, personal, portable plot of Mother Earth, our body.

Chapter 6: WE ARE A TRINITY

This chapter begins with the overview of our threeness:

Two hemispheres and one heart
Meet to make a trinity for living;
Two perspectives of reality from mind
May find their greatest advocate in giving
Sovereignty to a heart awakened.
Once this heart-brain triangle we know
Lives will link with Grace, toward calling´s flow.
As we activate and honor this grand thine
Lives become more humane, more Divine.
Much is included in this chapter which speaks of "tweaking" our brains into better functioning with the help of brain scans and even medication. And the physical heart, meant to be the brain´s sovereign partner, is looked at in the light of actual heart monitors, and new research from HeartMath Institute.

The story of a client´s miraculous self-healing with guided imagery, energy medicine and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is included, with imagery suggestions for healing help.

Readers are invited to open their hearts:

The hatching of the heart ---
So ripe, this phrase is haunting me.
How good, indeed it would be for the world
If each of us would HATCH our HEARTS this year,
Allowing hardened shells surrounding these
To slowly crack and fall away,
Releasing Light and Love with wings
So all within the orbit of our field
Could feel the flow
And somehow know
That peace of every kind
Comes from the heart, not mind.
There is a circle here:
The mind informs the heart,
The heart illumes the mind
Which then, again, informs the heart ---
And so it goes; with Grace the process flows.
Celebrate anew, each day, your best of parts:
Your tender and courageous heart
And start to HATCH that HEART today;
Tomorrow, someday, set it free
Then feel your Essence, fully BE.

Chapter 7: A HARMONIOUS QUARTET --- THE HEART

Four compartments has the heart
Housing all its qualities;
Two Yin, Two Yang chambers apart
Meet soul at their interstices.

There is a place in the physical heart where the four chambers meet , the very core of our heart. The four chambers, like all of nature, must be Yin (rhymes with feminine) and Yang (masculine). In this chapter the many qualities of the heart are lifted up with Courage and Joy being examples of strength and Spirit, stout-hearted Yang energy, strength and Spirit. Two Yin chambers honored are Trust and Compassion, reflecting the feminine accepting, receptive aspect of nature. Yin and Yang aspects of our heart meet in a partnership to form Gratitude, and Harmony, among other yinyang heart qualities.

Categorizing heart qualities into Yin and/or Yang is not the point of this chapter. What is important is to focus attention on the heart, thereby expanding its field of influence within ourselves and with others.

Our heart´s the greatest treasure trove
The bodymind may hold
Compassion is it´s healing balm
For others to enfold.
And we as well receive this love
As often as we give it.
Benevolence is who we ARE;
Remember, then, to live it.
And NOW´s the time, the only place
From whence the heart can flow;
Eternity´s the here and now ---
The heartspace whole, a´glow.
Let´s honor now the organ ---
Four chambered, splendid thing,
The meeting place of Mother Earth
With Heaven´s beckoning.
So clear away the discontent
And set your ticker free!
Celebrate your choice to love,
Expand humanity.
We needn´t overpopulate;
The planet needs our care!
Let´s flow our healing energy

From hearts to everywhere.

SECTION TWO

This is a more detailed and intricate description of the four perspectives. It is more of an "advanced self-help book" and an aid for counselors, healers, coaches and professionals wanting to be responsible and responsive to both of the two Realities presented in Section One.

This section includes exercises readers can use for their own growth, integration and healing. It also includes stories of the author´s work with her clients, and techniques which human-service professionals may want to include in their repertoire to make their work more holistic.

Academics may find these chapters helpful for bringing paradigms together, considering the theory of a Unified Self and for teaching the "how to´s" of holistic psychotherapy. Two of the chapters, Paradigm Mix-up´s and Family Energy Systems are mind expanding experiences. And Section Two it includes more poetry which may help with the integration of these new concepts by moving the reader from the linear, evaluative thinking mode of their "left-brain" realm into the flow of "right-brain" experience.

Chapter 8: SISTER/BROTHER CAN YOU PARADIGM?

Psychics and physicists are compared, as are two complementary cosmologies. The models of Reality from two different worlds, and the different ways of East and West are presented as is a proposal for marriage of the two opposite paradigms.

Chapter 9: TWO REALITIES IN CONTRAST

This chapter compares what the author calls Reality # 1 and Reality #2 describing human nature and spiritual experience. The spacious quality of the Energy Paradigm make individuals and couples in counseling feel more hopeful for with this viewpoint, difficult patterns are not "carved in stone" because everything is "energy-in-motion."

A chart is included in this chapter which compares and contrasts The Energy Paradigm with the Paradigm of conventional Science in nearly thirty ways. For example: In Reality #1 mystery is honored. In Reality #2 we seek mastery of the world. Chapter 10: YIN AND YANG REVISITED

Traditional ways of understanding the feminine principle and the masculine principle are described in this chapter and, following these familiar ways of thinking about Yin and Yang are some of the author´s additional ways of conceptualizing these two different modes which are destined to be partners:

Yin (Feminine):
Yang (Masculine):

Receptive/receptacle
Penetrating/instrument

Yielding
Controlling

Allowing things to happen
Making things happen

Gentle
Forceful

Soft, flexible
Hard, firm
Dark, wet, cold
Light, dry, heat

Weak, vulnerable
Strong Passive, resting
Active, striving

Cooperative Competitive Moon Sun Earth, Physical Body Heaven, Spirit Inward, downward Outward, upward Imaginative Logical Diffuse Focused Circular Linear Abstract, vague Concrete, specific THE FEMININE PRINCIPLE THE MASCULINE PRINCIPLE Dominant mode of "primitive" cultures Main mode of "advanced" Western civilization Life as mystery: (Gabriel Marcel) Life seen as problems and participation in the mystery and solving of problems Attitude of "Let it be," Attitude of "Just do it !" God as preposition ("The Great WITH") God as noun, more concrete That which connects; or as verb, a process, particular figure or The Creator God as PRESENCE throughout Her-story God as acting in history God as "Spirit" "The" Spirit or "A" Spirit A separate thing Soul cannot be contained; it is boundless Soul as container, that which holds energy merging with the Divine our experience "Human Beings" "Human Doings" Being present Taking action Our IS-ness nature Our business nature; busyness Reflects by looking forward Reflects by looking backward With dreams, fantasies, patterns Using data, opinions Sees and Accepts the whole Analytical, evaluative, judging Without placement hierarchial Awareness and Consciousness Experience Experience from Greater Self From 5 senses, action , emotion And "whole body" sense thought. specific body feeling Trust based behavior Survival based behavior Process Content Chapter 11: METAPHORS FOR TWO REALITIES Metaphors and guided imagery exercises are presented for enhancing the physically felt sense of wholeness and embodying our Soul energy. Chapter 12: BEING PRESENT TO OURSELVES You must be present to win! Teaching presence is, to a large extent, what counseling clients toward greater consciousness is about. This chapter looks at the polarity of Awareness and Experience, encouraging awareness of our human experience as a way to have the polar opposites, Reality # 1 and Reality # 2, meet in the middle (Reality #3) where magic can happen. Helping professionals can bring more "presence" to their work and we can all learn to be WITH ourselves more intimately as we consider God as "the great preposition," the Great "With," the Grand Connector. Chapter 13: THE TEXTURE OF EACH REALITY Reality #1 and Reality #2 do not feel the same to our physical body. The felt energies, the qualities of these Reality polarities, one spacious, the other dense, are described and contrasted. An experiential exercise is included. Ultimately, all energy of each reality is Divine aliveness and so, the philosophies of Pantheism and Panentheism are also described and contrasted, too. Chapter 14: PARADIGM ENTANGLEMENT The rules of each paradigm are different. People get into trouble or look foolish when they apply one Reality´s set of perceptions and rules to the other Reality! What psychiatry deems a "thought disorders" may be an example of a paradigm mix-up. Metaphysical concepts are presented in this chapter. The polarity of limitlessness in the boundary-less realm of Heavenly resources is contrasted with the need to have limits in the physical-material reality. Much confusion can get cleared up as we look at mixed paradigms. Chapter 15: SEPARATENESS AND ONENESS Developmental psychology teaches of the linear-sequential process of "separation- individuation." While "all is one" in the reality of Spirit where "we are all in this together," in the physical-material reality "we are all in this alone." Healthy psychological self-hood requires that we move through this process and become "differentiated" from those with whom we are originally merged. This chapter tells the story of separation and the possible and probable pitfalls in the process. Chapter 16: POLARITIES Polarities and paradoxes are looked at through a wide angled lens which takes in Freud, Jung, Daniel Levinson, Heinz Kohut, the author´s list of "primitive polarities" of the narcissistically vulnerable and suggestions for balancing these energies. Noah´s Ark is revisited. It may be the time for awakening to the very real possibility that the lion can and will lie down with the lamb. The paradox of "creating your own reality" and surrendering is examined. Chapter 17: FAMILY ENERGY SYSTEMS Family System Theory meets Energy Medicine in this chapter where metaphysical laws add insight to the beliefs that "opposites attract" and "like attracts like" (The Law of Attraction). Change in one family member changes each family member, even those members who are far away. Chapter 18: THERAPISTS, HEALERS, COACHES How are these roles different ? Can one person wear all hats? A chart compares and contrasts the perspectives and practices of therapists and healers. Therapy modalities fall on a continuum from the more concrete problem-solving, cognitive and developmental modes to the more creative modes such as art therapy and therapies that work more directly with the energy of the deeper domain, the Soul´s realm. Chapter 19: SEX AND THE UNIFIED SELF A continuum of sexual connection, degrees of intimacy and the relationship with Self/selfhood is presented here. Commonly held ideas in conventional psychology about aspects of sexual dysfunction are addressed. The essence of the chapter is found in its poem: Robust Those lusty ways So primal While we have these bodies Let us get from them The mileage that we may Connecting to divine aliveness Merging with the Great Beyond Communing with The One Through union with another Lover Hearts of gold Arms enfolding Spirits flowing No withholding Share this Earth Give birth to making Fertile now At any age And any stage of life A time for pleasure-making No mistake in waking To a time to savor Bodies which have brought us through and on beyond Our suffering to now enjoy the bonds Of blissful union, More communion. Chapter 20: HONORING HEAVEN AND EARTH

Ancient Earth-based traditions are discussed along with some clinically useful thoughts on Hinduism, the Buddha´s formative years, an experience of Moses, and the Yin and Yang of Jesus´ teachings. And for what do we seek wholeness? A Unified Self brings us to the place where the answers are found.

Chapter 21: THE "SHADOW" OF THE NEW AGE MOVEMENT

Immaturities among New Agers are highlighted.

Chapter 22: HELP FOR HIGHLY SPIRITUAL, PRIMARY PROCESS PEOPLE

Who are the psychologically vulnerable in the era of holistic practices and alternative therapy? What are the cognitive styles, relationship proclivities and personality peculiarities of psychics and highly energy sensitive people? 24 things that sensitive people and their therapist, healers and coaches need to consider.

Chapter 23: PAVING THE ROAD TO WHOLENESS

Concluding Section II is a distinction between various levels of energy work, some thoughts about alternative therapy and finally, 36 of the book´s better concepts.

SECTION THREE:

The third section is the author´s experience as a therapist-on-the-mend, the tale of her extensive, expensive, often off-beat and long process of healing from thyroid cancer, rheumatoid arthritis and serious MS symptoms, all of which have been completely eliminated since the mid 1980´s. The author shares her own road through depression and a sometimes somewhat fragmented personality to the blessed time of welcoming her wholeness and Unified Selfhood --- Greater Self and personality level ("lesser self") in tandem. She shares the wealth of her educational excursions into two different cultures, for she has explored far and wide within the conventional paradigm of psychology and psychiatry, studied the new sciences, theology, comparative religions, various forms of meditation and energy healing practices and ventured far outside the establishment where she made contact with medicine men and women, shamanic healers, psychics and many unusual characters.

CHAPTER 24: PLACES ALONG THE ROAD

The benefit of the author´s experience of synthesizing many ways and means of approaching life and of living through family tragedies is shared with the intention to inspire (put Spirit-into) readers with what she has learned bringing hope to those who take a look at this book and turn its pages.

APPENDIX A: Author´s diagrammatic description of Heinz Kohut´s theory of narcissism

APPENDIX B: Ten Strategies for Holistic Counseling

APPENDIX C: A list of 40 presentations where the author has shared her material in academic institutions and professional and ecclesiastical organizations during the past 15 years.

APPENDIX D: The author´s personal log of many hundreds of lectures, workshops, healings and "readings" experienced throughout the 1970´s, 1980´s, and half way through the 1990´s.

Notes: 90 + citations

Bibliography:

250 "Books for Paradigm-Bridging, Balancing Realities and Holistic Education" grouped into 55 categories which have been synthesized in the author´s work, such as: The New Sciences, Consciousness, Energy Healing, Vibrational/Energy Medicine, New Heart and Brain Material, "Parts" Psychology, Dream work, Jungian Psychology, Synchronicity, Family Systems, Narcissism and Self Psychology, Object Relations and Spirituality, Transformational Psychology, Mysticism and Psychotherapy, The Shadow, Shamanic Counseling, Spiritual Emergency and Depossession Therapy, States of Spiritual Development, Popular Reading in Spirituality, Guru Studies, Meditation, Prayer, Comparative Religions, Oracles, Channeled Books, Sacred Geometry, Alternative Medicine.

If you think you are losing your mind, I have good news for you. You can change your mind. And this book will help you change your mind!

Our New Human MindSkills explains in detail how our mind works now and how we will change the way we use our mind to keep up in our rapidly changing world as we move towards a new consciousness.

Here are some of the things you will find in this book: � How the mind works now: page 30 � How deductive reasoning and paradigms lock your mind: page 32 � How you can change your mind: page 35 � How to access the intuitive level of your mind: page 38 � How to use an �open language� to open your mind: page 59 � How to keep up with the exponential curve of change: 89 � How to develop a perfect memory: page 96 � How to clear your mind of thoughts in seconds: page 119 After you have cleared your mind, the next technique enables you to access mental levels which are above your normal range of operati on. You will be able to access informati on which becomes available without the use of logic or deductive reasoning. With this exercise, you can generate intuitive perceptive insights at will. These are �Aha!� fl ashes you have in the shower or entering sleep.

You will also have access to several advanced techniques. This change in the way we use our mind includes a new intra-communicative language with which you can formulate a question or issue, present it to your mind with your new skills, and generate perceptive insights which are often not available in the way we presently use our mind.

Please join me in this transition towards our new human consciousness.

These include: � creative thought selection, � insight retention, � scenario expansion, � advanced thought retrieval, � idea-shell creation, and � time projection. � Information processing at lightning speed

If you think you are losing your mind, I have good news for you. You can change your mind. And this book will help you change your mind!

Our New Human MindSkills explains in detail how our mind works now and how we will change the way we use our mind to keep up in our rapidly changing world as we move towards a new consciousness.

Here are some of the things you will find in this book: � How the mind works now: page 30 � How deductive reasoning and paradigms lock your mind: page 32 � How you can change your mind: page 35 � How to access the intuitive level of your mind: page 38 � How to use an �open language� to open your mind: page 59 � How to keep up with the exponential curve of change: 89 � How to develop a perfect memory: page 96 � How to clear your mind of thoughts in seconds: page 119 After you have cleared your mind, the next technique enables you to access mental levels which are above your normal range of operati on. You will be able to access informati on which becomes available without the use of logic or deductive reasoning. With this exercise, you can generate intuitive perceptive insights at will. These are �Aha!� fl ashes you have in the shower or entering sleep.

You will also have access to several advanced techniques. This change in the way we use our mind includes a new intra-communicative language with which you can formulate a question or issue, present it to your mind with your new skills, and generate perceptive insights which are often not available in the way we presently use our mind.

Please join me in this transition towards our new human consciousness.

These include: � creative thought selection, � insight retention, � scenario expansion, � advanced thought retrieval, � idea-shell creation, and � time projection. � Information processing at lightning speed

Tito Rajarshi Mukhopadhyay, a leading poet (though he does not acknowledge it) and memoirist of the experience of autism, was born in India in 1988. Tito was diagnosed with severe autism at the age of three, but his mother Soma, with fi erce hope and determination, devised an intensive rapid prompting method to teach Tito to read and write. In 2001, Tito and his mother came to the United States to begin work collaborating with doctors, re-searchers, and advocates in order to better understand and support individuals with autism. At a very early age, Tito began expressing himself in prose and poetry and numerous collections of his work have been published (see below). More recently, Tito has become a leading fi gure in the neurodiversity movement, challenging conventional measures of mental states and abilities. As Tito describes himself: �Human beings have classifi ed each other based on religion, country, disorders and of course in today�s world their sexual choices. It is easy to recognize each other based on classifi cation. Hence, doctors have classifi ed me with Autism.� Tito�s life and work have been featured widely in the media, including �Sixty Minutes�,�Good Morning America,� The New York Times, Scientifi c American, National Geographic, PBS, CNN, Disability Studies Quarterly and in the documentaries Tito�s Story (BBC, 1999) and A Mother�s Courage (HBO, 2010) Tito now lives in Austin, Texas, where his mother directs the autism organization HALO http://www.halo-soma.org and Tito and his mother make frequent presentations to autism education and advocacy organizations nationwide.

Tito Rajarshi Mukhopadhyay, a leading poet (though he does not acknowledge it) and memoirist of the experience of autism, was born in India in 1988. Tito was diagnosed with severe autism at the age of three, but his mother Soma, with fi erce hope and determination, devised an intensive rapid prompting method to teach Tito to read and write. In 2001, Tito and his mother came to the United States to begin work collaborating with doctors, re-searchers, and advocates in order to better understand and support individuals with autism. At a very early age, Tito began expressing himself in prose and poetry and numerous collections of his work have been published (see below). More recently, Tito has become a leading fi gure in the neurodiversity movement, challenging conventional measures of mental states and abilities. As Tito describes himself: �Human beings have classifi ed each other based on religion, country, disorders and of course in today�s world their sexual choices. It is easy to recognize each other based on classifi cation. Hence, doctors have classifi ed me with Autism.� Tito�s life and work have been featured widely in the media, including �Sixty Minutes�,�Good Morning America,� The New York Times, Scientifi c American, National Geographic, PBS, CNN, Disability Studies Quarterly and in the documentaries Tito�s Story (BBC, 1999) and A Mother�s Courage (HBO, 2010) Tito now lives in Austin, Texas, where his mother directs the autism organization HALO http://www.halo-soma.org and Tito and his mother make frequent presentations to autism education and advocacy organizations nationwide.

Jean Pollack’s first book chronicles the story of a dissociative man who meets his future therapist at a ballroom dancing event. The reader is invited to therapy sessions where his intriguing and often harrowing story of abuse is told. The way his mind works reveals stark imagery, yet even when the feelings elicited are complex the reader wants to understand the patient’s troubled world. His uplifting story of abuse to integration through healing and dance is told by his therapist through her client’s eyes. This book is important and progressive.

Jean Pollack’s first book chronicles the story of a dissociative man who meets his future therapist at a ballroom dancing event. The reader is invited to therapy sessions where his intriguing and often harrowing story of abuse is told. The way his mind works reveals stark imagery, yet even when the feelings elicited are complex the reader wants to understand the patient’s troubled world. His uplifting story of abuse to integration through healing and dance is told by his therapist through her client’s eyes. This book is important and progressive.

Jean Pollack’s first book chronicles the story of a dissociative man who meets his future therapist at a ballroom dancing event. The reader is invited to therapy sessions where his intriguing and often harrowing story of abuse is told. The way his mind works reveals stark imagery, yet even when the feelings elicited are complex the reader wants to understand the patient’s troubled world. His uplifting story of abuse to integration through healing and dance is told by his therapist through her client’s eyes. This book is important and progressive.

Combining her experiences as patient, therapist, clinician, advocate, author, researcher and family care giver, and presenting them through a truly unique and multi-faceted perspective – Ms. Lindsay opens wide a window for all readers to witness the harsh realities and painful stigma of living with major depression and anxiety.FIGHT FOR MY LIFE – Knowing My Anxiety and My Depression by Pamela J. Lindsay, A.L.M. is a compelling and insightful account of one woman’s journey through the darkness of depression and the anguish of anxiety. The author captures real life experiences, and presents candid information and observations about living with depression and anxiety as a patient, clinical therapist, advocate, family care giver, graduate student, researcher, and writer. This is a very real and detailed life story of how a person deals with mental disease that is both inherited and genetic, and learned through environmental exposures from childhood through adulthood. The book contains highly descriptive experiences about dealing with these psychological demons, family history, modalities of therapy, and acquired coping mechanisms beginning in childhood and spanning across over 50 years into her mid to late adulthood. There are discussions pertaining to her real life events, emotional and painful trauma, triumphs and successes, and the methods employed for climbing out of the pit of darkness into the light of recovery. Issues relating to societal stigma, employment, access to mental health services, therapeutic applications, medication, and support systems are also candidly discussed throughout the book. For the reader seeking a comprehensive view of what it is like to live with chronic depression and debilitating anxiety, this is the book to read.