I want to say I love you to my aunt and uncle Gwen and Grady for always being there for me nomatter what. My brothers and sisters DaVont'a, Octavia, Tatyana, Tyrek, Dominquk, for being the best young sisters and brothers ever. My cousin Gerlinda for being there for me and also help took care of me growing up. Qa'Shawn, Mike, Raheem my boy Mook for being the realist and the best boys, brothers and cousins to me. My mom Kim for being my mom. Any other family that I left out; I love yall as well.
Women that dislike gay men, Women that love being around gay men, Women that dislike gay women, Women that love gay women Women that dislike gay men I have yet to meet a women that has or have a problem with a gay man. Some probably do have a problem with gay men; like maybe a jealous women or older/old school women, or the Ms goodie too shoes women. I say the jealous women because there are a lot of jealous women in the world and they don�t just think of only women trying to steal their man, they think gay men would as well. Why? Because men turn gay all the time, to some women it�s a problem. Other women that may have a problem with gay men are from the old school. Old school women will have a problem with it because when they were growing up, there were no such things. So the new world is like a big slap in the face and they feel like they don�t even understand why young people and even adults could want to be with the same sex. Over all some older people just let it go because of the simple fact they have someone in the family that is gay and they kind of approve of it because the person is family and to most old people family is everything. Now the goodie too shoes women are going to have a problem with it because they are the goodie too shoes women and they have a problem with everything. If it�s not about them, then you are the hated. Over all, if there are other types of women that have or have a problem with gay men; they are only being that way because of the understanding of what two men do together. Women see it, as a tool shouldn�t have relations or relationships with another tool, the tool are for the women. They may even see it as men should be a man and protect the women, so a man being gay and not protecting a woman by being with The Opposite Of Being Straight 15 another man is like a punk so I�ve heard before. Other than that personally I don�t know any women that dislikes gay men. Women that love gay men The women that like and love being around and friends with gay men have a lot of reasons. Straight women love being around gay men because they have a lot in common. They like the fact that gay men have there own style; they are cool, fun, very funny, down to earth, likes to shop, can do hair, dance, and don�t have nor like drama as most women. Women have a lot of styles and know what they like to wear and how they want to wear it. Gay men do as well. If you put a women stylist and gay man in the same room to do designs, when they come out you will have the best designs ever. They could be in that room for hours and still get along without any arguments unlike straight women and a straight man or straight women and another straight women would. All gay men are cool. A straight women and a gay man could make it as friends because a gay man personality would fit a women as friends. The fun side of a gay man is a lot to a women. Women loves to party and so do gay men. If the two were to go out to a club they would have the best time ever. Coming back home would be the thing they would want to do. Gay men are down to earth with women because they both go through the same thing and there�s always something to talk about plus all gay men are funny. Straight men and straight women are not a good match to go out and shop together. Straight men don�t have patience shopping with women because women shop for hours. Hell, I don�t even like shopping with women. A gay man and straight women would have a ball shopping together. Gay men have patience and also shops for hours. Straight men go shopping and get what they need to get and get out, so do I. Plus women like gay men to shop with them anyway because the conversation and fun is always there. One conversation will be about men. That�s always there conversation; it may not be the first conversation but it will come up before the shopping is over. Women that dislike gay women. Women that don�t like gay women have the same reasons as straight men that don�t like other gay men. They just can�t understand why two women would want to be together and even have sex together. Most straight women are judgmental, jealous, older, and careless at times. You can be gay and three times successful and better than a straight women and they would still judge you as if you were a nobody to her, but that�s just most judgmental women. The older women all have 16 Kyana Belfield the same reasons as I said before in the women that dislike gay men. I have seen a few jealous women that are jealous of gay women because some gay women are happier and doing better than they are. So yeah-straight women are haten on the gay women; most want tell you but they do. That�s something, how they hate on the gay women but want to become gay; at least some want to. I say don�t hate just join. The real straight women is very simple some hate but some keep it real and some are just that strictly dickly type so it�s simple they just love dick. They don�t see why pussy wants pussy. They don�t see how a woman can pleasure another women when they have the same thing. They never will understand until they become gay. That�s how it always is; the women that hate gays mostly become it. As for these days, gays are taking over. Women that loves being around gay women In my opinion, women that love being around gay women only do it because they are friends or they are related. I haven�t met any women who loves gay women other wise. Most women I can say will stick together no matter what. If they are friends and they just find out that there friend is gay, it�s nothing because it�s like family. Once you become best friends, best friends forever, and besties, then you are something like family and sisters family. That�s how some women are and I like that type of women. All women should be that way; on the other hand, some women stop being friends with their friend because they are gay. To me that�s fucked up. I see it as If you are friends with somebody and you find out that they are gay; if they are your friends it shouldn�t matter what or who they become. It�s not like you have to become gay just because your friend is. Your gay friend is still the same friend he or she was before you found out they are gay. To the people that stop being friends with someone because you found out they are gay . . . fuck you and grow up. 17 Men that dislike gay men, Men that�s ok with gay men, Men that dislike gay women, Men that love gay women Men that dislike gay men�I have been around men that have no problem at all with a gay women but when it comes down to a gay man there�s a problem. One set of men I�ve met was the gang member types. Now gang member types hate gay men; to them gay men should die and if a gay man was to be around them there will be a problem. I�m not saying it because of how I�ve seen it but I�m saying it because Like I said I�m around people who says it and mean it. Example one night I was planning on going to a party and there was a gay boy named Deontay that lived maybe ten minutes from where I stayed. He gave me a call to see what I was doing that night and I told him that I was going to a party. He told me that he wanted to go and asked if he could ride with I told him he could. When we got to the party, just before we walked in, I saw some of my boys walking over towards me and I knew how they are when it comes to gay boys. So before they got near us I told Deontay whatever he did, do not act gay. Before he could ask why he looked at my boys then looked at me and said �ok�. Then we all walked into the party about twenty-two deep. While in the party Deontay started dancing and that was cool until he brought out his gay dancing even though he could dance his ass off. Everybody knew that he was gay mainly because of the way he danced. After awhile, my boys started watching, the first person they looked at was me. They asked me was he gay and I said, �I don�t know.� Then they said �he better not be and we was just walking with this nigga�. The only 18 Kyana Belfield thing popped in my head was please let this dude chill out. I knew right then that if they found out that Deontay was gay, they would kill him and it�s going to be my fault for bringing him. After the party was over as always I never go straight home I always walk with the boys to one of there houses to chill, drink, and bring girls over from the party. Now me, my boys, Deontay, and half of that town are walking down the road. Even the police was riding around behind everybody because most of the time something always goes down after the party. Anyway we head down the road one of my boys lives on and the boys and me are walking together. Then I look back, Deontay is like a mile away from us walking real slowly and I go back there to talk to him. I asked him why was he so far back he said �because your boys scare me and I said �look they hate gay dudes and they are going to ask you are you gay because they saw the way you were dancing at the party. If I was you, when they ask you are you gay, you better tell them no, �damn� tell them hell no�. He said �ok�. By the time we got maybe five minutes from my boys house, the boys started asking him questions, standing in his face. One asked him was he gay. Deontay said �no�, another one was saying �home boy you better not be gay or your ass aren�t making it home tonight.� Another one was laughing saying, �damn right we gone jump his ass and put some heat in him�. I told my boys to chill because he isn�t gay. Deontay was past scared. When the boys and me went in the house Deontay stayed outside and it was cool as hell out there too. The boys told him he could come in but he said no, so I walked outside and I was like �why you don�t want to come in the house?� He said �because I�m scared and if I go in there I am not going to make it out� I said �if you don�t go in after they asked you them questions they gone think that you were lying �He said �just tell them I�m on the phone or something, �I said� �aite�. That�s just an example of what I meant. I was more than glad to get Deontay home because a lot of things to some people are pasted serious and that night to be real and honest they would�ve killed that boy that night and would�ve slept great that night. Second set of straight men is the older types. The older types hate gay men because hey they are old and when they were growing up in the old days to them there were no such thing as a gay man. To them men should be with women and should be taking care of the women. To older men, gay men are soft and like I said before they should be with women. They don�t understand the new days. The older men thinks just like the older women do. The third type of straight men is almost every other man in the world. The Opposite Of Being Straight 19 They don�t know why would a man become gay. The parts that really get to straight men is the fact of knowing what two men do and why would a man that has a tool would want to have sex with another man with a tool. I don�t know any straight man that is OK with being around a gay man. Even though there may be straight men that have ok with gay it�s just I haven�t met one yet. Men that�s ok with gay men The straight men that are OK with being around a gay man probably don�t mind because they are either friends with him and he�s just being a faithful friend or he just pays it no attention because he�s not the judgmental type. Men keep there cool with certain things. Having a gay friend is difficult but a real friend is a real friend so they stick with that gay friend no matter what; even defend him when he has to. As I said before even though there may be straight men that have ok with gay it�s just I haven�t met one yet. Men that dislike gay women There are men that dislike two women relations because they feel like a man should be the only people giving a woman love and satisfaction. They feel like women can�t do other women the way a man could sexually. Just as a lot of things I don�t know any man that don�t like a gay women. Me personally, if I was a man I would love that women on women thing. Now some men like gay women but at the same time they don�t like gay women and that�s because when they try to talk to a gay female, they get turned down every time so that can make a man feel some type of way. Example one day I was hanging out with some other gay girls and they were fems. Some boys walked up to them and one boy was doing all of the talking. He asked one of the girls her name. She told him then he asked her �does she have a man.� and she said �no I�m gay� he said �can I get your number �she said for what I�m gay and it ain�t nothing we need to talk about.� Then she walked away and he was still trying to get with her. My point is boys and men don�t know when to stop, and when they get turned down they get the attitude changes towards gay women. That�s the only thing I can come up with even though I�ve seen it being done. I even had a boy come up to me one day when I was in Greenville. He was crying, telling me how his girl went gay on him and she would not take him back. Now the first thing I said to him was, try again, so he could have both of them, and if that don�t work keep it moving. So yeah it happens. 20 Kyana Belfield Men that love gay women The only thing I have to say about men that love gay women is; all men should love gay women and most do. It�s apart of there fantasy. Almost all men love the fact of two women being together, Hell watching two women having sex; to men that�s heaven. Threesomes are heaven. To me any straight man that don�t love the idea of two women should be gay themselves. Simple as that.